Welcome to My Blog: Why I Started this Work

If someone had told me years ago that I’d be working as a sex and intimacy counselor, I might have been surprised. But in hindsight, the path that led me here feels completely natural. My journey into this work didn’t happen overnight—it evolved over years of supporting individuals and couples in my private psychotherapy practice.

My work included helping couples address common issues, like communication difficulties, trust breakdowns, and emotional distance. But I started noticing a common thread—many couples weren’t just struggling with these issues; they were also struggling with sex and intimacy.

Time and time again, I saw couples on the brink of breaking up—feeling disconnected, frustrated, and uncertain about how to repair their bond and stay connected both emotionally, but also sexually. And while I could offer a safe, non-judgmental space, I realized I needed deeper knowledge to truly support them.

My Shift into Sex and Intimacy Counseling

In 2023, I decided to specialize in sex and intimacy counseling so that I could bridge the gap with what was missing in my work with couples. I sought additional training, and it completely transformed my approach. What I learned reinforced something powerful that I already knew: many couples struggle not because they don’t want sex, but because they don’t know how to talk about it. Fear, shame, and stigma often make open conversations feel impossible, which only widens the emotional and physical space between couples.

As I deepened my expertise and became more comfortable discussing sex with clients, I saw how learning to communicate about intimacy safely and openly had a ripple effect. Couples not only strengthened their physical connection but also felt more emotionally secure, connected, and aligned. With this realization, I decided to shift my focus entirely to sex and intimacy counseling.

Today, I bring together my experience as an integrative therapist and utilize my training in mindfulness-based interventions, Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT), and human sexuality to help couples rebuild intimacy and connection in ways that feel empowering and mutually satisfying. I offer short-term couples therapy to expats, both online and in-person in my office in Amstelveen.

What You’ll Find Here

Through my work, I’ve seen firsthand how conversations about intimacy can transform relationships. But I also know that these conversations can feel overwhelming, intimidating, or even impossible to start. That’s why I created this blog—to provide a space where we can openly explore, without shame or stigma. Each week we’ll be discussing a new theme about sex, intimacy, and pleasure, which will provide you with the knowledge and confidence you need to start exploring these topics on your own and with your partner, in a way that strengthens your relationship.

Here, we’ll be discussing:

• Creating Deep Emotional & Physical Connection – Strengthening the emotional bond that supports a fulfilling sex life between you and your partner.

• Communication & Boundaries – Learning how to discuss desires, needs, and limits without feeling anxiety, guilt, shame, or pressure.

• Debunking Myths About Sex & Pleasure – Breaking down the misconceptions and misinformation that hold us back.

• Body Confidence & Self-Acceptance – Understanding how body image impacts intimacy and learning strategies to overcome these issues.

• Sexual Empowerment & Owning Pleasure – Embracing pleasure as a vital and fulfilling part of life.

• Aging & Peri-menopause – Exploring how sex changes as we age and debunking the myths and misinformation about sex at mid-life and beyond.

• Alternative Relationship Dynamics & Pleasure Practices – Reducing stigma around kink, BDSM, and Ethical Non-Monogamy (ENM).

Let’s Start the Conversation

My mission is to help you move from uncertainty to empowerment, and from disconnection to closeness. When you and your partner can talk openly about sex, it can shift from something stressful and burdensome to something exciting and fulfilling. By helping you reconnect, resentment can fade while emotional connection can flourish and pleasure can become something you truly enjoy—without shame, pressure, or fear.

I’m so glad you’re here. Let’s break the silence around sex, challenge the stigma, and start having real conversations about sex and intimacy. Because when we start talking, everything changes.

Do you have a question about intimacy you’ve been afraid to ask? Drop it in the comments or reach out via email—I’d love to explore it together.