What if the key to better sex wasn’t just love or trust, but a little ruthlessness? Michael J. Bader argues that true sexual satisfaction comes from unapologetically embracing your desires without guilt or shame. This isn’t about being selfish, it’s about letting go of inhibitions so you can fully immerse yourself in pleasure. In this post, we’ll explore how overcoming guilt, fear, and societal expectations can transform your sex life and deepen your connection with your partner.

Do you find yourself distracted during sex, worrying about how you look, sound, or perform? You’re not alone. This common experience, known as spectatoring, can disconnect you from pleasure and intimacy. In this post, we explore the causes of spectatoring, from body image concerns to performance anxiety, and share actionable strategies to help you stay present, build confidence, and enjoy a more fulfilling sex life.

Turning away from intimacy means turning away from pleasure. Discover how reconnecting with intimacy can bring joy, passion, and fulfillment.

Talking about sex can feel uncomfortable, but avoiding it creates distance. Learn how open conversations can transform intimacy and deepen connection.

Learn why I became a sex and intimacy counselor and how open conversations can help couples deepen emotional and physical connection.